Someone came up with the brilliant idea for a show that completely distorts young girls' sense of worth. Instead of judging it by the previews, I'm watching the entire show, so that i can adequately analyze it. Here's the premise:
Let's take a girl with obvious self-esteem issues. Instead of teaching her that she is beautiful, inside and out, just the way she is, we're going to tell her that she needs a superficial makeover. We're going to put a lot of make-up on her, have her hair professionally done, and dress her up in expensive clothes. But that's not enough. She must have a man! She can't be single because a man is what validates a woman!
Needless to say, i'm disgusted. This poor girl is so uncomfortable. Oh wow, as i was typing that, she actually said, "i'm uncomfortable". Now they're teaching her burlesque and making her wear fishnet tights, and her boobs are popping out, goodness gracious. just the phrase, "Plain Jane" is insulting. I mean, that's what makes these young girls do so many unnecessary things, just to fit an impossible standard. they develop eating disorders, dress too old for their age, wear a ton of makeup, etc. i'm not against beauty and fashion, but i dont like the pressure put on girls to look a certain way to feel some kind of self-worth.
when she confesses her crush, it turns out that he had already had a crush on her. so he liked her before the glitz and glam.
There's nothing wrong with teaching confidence, but you should be confident in who you already are. i think this girl is so beautiful naturally, without all this flashy stuff. she's closed off and shy, but SO WHAT. that's just who she is. i used to have low self-esteem, and i didn't gain my confidence from what i look like on the outside. i explored who i was, and discovered hobbies and passions, and through all of that i accepted myself.
everyone has their counterpart. she's shy and quirky, at some point, some shy and quirky guy will probably come along that loves her as is (not saying that she needs that). Putting on a mask, so that you're more accepted by society?, that's not really embracing oneself. Changing yourself, to get some guy's attention? that's not exactly self-empowering either. Why not highlight her talents and/or other good qualities. Emphasize those and tell her that she DOESN'T have to look like the girls in the magazines.
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
The Bachelorette in Tahiti
Well, Frank is in love with his ex-girlfriend. i guess you can say girlfriend, since they're back together and he's saying that this is the girl he wants to spend the rest of his life with. ugh, and she seems like a child. i understand having lingering feelings for an ex, but come on. you shouldn't jump in to something new until you are completely over your previous relationship. it's not fair to the new person, because they are investing in you, and meanwhile you're thinking about your ex. Next!...
Her date with Roberto was typical. they spend the day rolling around on the beach, kissing and giggling. that night, they sip wine and have some empty conversation about life. to me, i just see them as two completely different people. but they happen to have a strong physical attraction, and he has a nice smile, and that's what's kept him around so long. again, as far as a life-long relationship, i don't see it.
Her date with Chris was pretty much the same: making out and frolicking in the water. then they talk some, and go to a fantasy suite, where who knows what happens. i like Chris, but i don't see it working with him either. and i'm sure he's doing fine. a cute sensitive guy with a broken heart? he's most likely getting a lot of action now back home on the Cape.
After this, Frank comes to Tahiti to break the news to Ali. He claims his feelings for Nicole were holding him back from giving Ali his heart. I'm glad he's at least doing it now, instead of stringing her along even longer, waiting until after she picked him. honestly, i'm a little on the fence. i have to respect him following his heart, but not only was it wrong for him to lead her on this long, it was wrong for him to go on the show in the first place.
now it just feels like these last 2 guys are here by default. if Frank didn't play her, he would've been in the top two for sure. Overall, it was probably a good ratings boost, but now no one's gonna watch the next 2 episodes. i read somewhere that Frank is not gonna be on "The Men Tell All" next Monday. too bad. that would've made it exciting because i'm sure there would've been a confrontation. it looks like the main focus will be psycho Kasey's tatoo, Justin Rego, and the Weatherman. but you never know, they might pull out some surprises. either way, i'll be watching. so come back next Monday night for blog on that episode!
Her date with Roberto was typical. they spend the day rolling around on the beach, kissing and giggling. that night, they sip wine and have some empty conversation about life. to me, i just see them as two completely different people. but they happen to have a strong physical attraction, and he has a nice smile, and that's what's kept him around so long. again, as far as a life-long relationship, i don't see it.
Her date with Chris was pretty much the same: making out and frolicking in the water. then they talk some, and go to a fantasy suite, where who knows what happens. i like Chris, but i don't see it working with him either. and i'm sure he's doing fine. a cute sensitive guy with a broken heart? he's most likely getting a lot of action now back home on the Cape.
After this, Frank comes to Tahiti to break the news to Ali. He claims his feelings for Nicole were holding him back from giving Ali his heart. I'm glad he's at least doing it now, instead of stringing her along even longer, waiting until after she picked him. honestly, i'm a little on the fence. i have to respect him following his heart, but not only was it wrong for him to lead her on this long, it was wrong for him to go on the show in the first place.
now it just feels like these last 2 guys are here by default. if Frank didn't play her, he would've been in the top two for sure. Overall, it was probably a good ratings boost, but now no one's gonna watch the next 2 episodes. i read somewhere that Frank is not gonna be on "The Men Tell All" next Monday. too bad. that would've made it exciting because i'm sure there would've been a confrontation. it looks like the main focus will be psycho Kasey's tatoo, Justin Rego, and the Weatherman. but you never know, they might pull out some surprises. either way, i'll be watching. so come back next Monday night for blog on that episode!
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
The Bachelorette
I know it's stupid, and i hate on pop-culture trash, and i'm not a girly girl, blah blah blah, but whatever. i live a very serious and stressful life, so watching The Bachelorette is my one guilty pleasure that i indulge in. i wish i had been blogging about this from the beginning of the season :/ anyways, i think Ali has made the right choices up until now for the most part. Of the guys we got to know, everyone who was sent home, deserved to be sent home. i cant really speak on the guys who were sent home on the first night, since we didn't see much of them. but now that the season is coming to an end, im thinking maybe she should have reconsidered some of the guys sent home that first night.
of the 3 guys still there, Frank is my choice, but we already know he's not gonna win. from the previews we now pretty much know that Frank is going to leave :( in the beginning i thought Frank was way too over the top and eager. i still think he's just a tad extra, but i think him and Ali make a cute and compatible couple. They both have a serious, goal-oriented side, and a goofy side, and they both seem to be ready for commitment. and she got along so great with his family. it's too bad it wont work out for them. but then again, Frank lives at home with his parents, so how would that even work? i guess he would've moved in with Ali in San Fran.
Now on to Roberto, who i call Rico Suave. he's that guy from a romance novel, with dashing good looks and an amazing body. he has a good job, and he plays baseball so he's athletic and outdoorsy which is great for Ali. he's perfect on paper. but for some reason, though, there just seems to be something missing with Roberto. i'm not feeling the deep connection that i feel when her and Frank are together. the other thing that bothered me was Roberto's dad asking Ali to make sacrifices so that Roberto can advance in his career. then she'll just become an accessory to his life, rather than living her own and complementing his, while achieving her goals as well. the reason Ali left Jake when she was on the Bachelor, was because her career was on the line. i understand relationships involve compromise, but i don't think she should have to give up too much to be with him. and i don't think she'll be willing to, so they'll probably end up butting heads when it comes to what direction their life together will take. but hey, if she thinks she and Roberto have what it takes to make it, then more power to her. those will be some cute kids.
Lastly, Chris. Chris was under the radar for the most part up until the last couple of episodes. he's cute and i think Ali really likes him, but he seems a little bland. when he tries to be lively, it seems forced and awkward. i understand his mother passed away, so it's hard for him to open up, but i think he needs to find someone who's just as mellow as he is. what worries me about that situation is Ali getting bored with life on the Cape. it's beautiful there, but her career can only go so far there. plus he lives with his father, and i dont think he's ready to leave his father alone. if Ali moved out there with him, i think they would spend way too much time with his father. i feel like Chris just wants someone to comfort him, and Ali just happens to be there in front of him. I dont know how invested he is in Ali, specifically. he sees what his brothers have with their wives, and he just WANTS it, it doesnt matter who it's with.
im not really that excited about next weeks episode. it's evident that Frank leaves, in overly dramatic "reality" show fashion. his ex-girlfriend Nicole that he meets up with seems weird, and really young and simple-minded. it's hard to believe he would be with someone like that. i mean she doesn't even compare to Ali. it's been said that he was just doing the show for exposure, which is awful, but im not surprised.
i'm excited about the week after when they do "The Bachelorette: The Guys Tell All" special. I think it's live. if it is, there will probably be clues of whether or not she even picks someone in the end. rumor has it, she doesnt pick anyone. well she seems happy when the TMZ cameras find her. we'll just have to wait and see. check back for my next posting on tuesday night, or wednesday morning!
of the 3 guys still there, Frank is my choice, but we already know he's not gonna win. from the previews we now pretty much know that Frank is going to leave :( in the beginning i thought Frank was way too over the top and eager. i still think he's just a tad extra, but i think him and Ali make a cute and compatible couple. They both have a serious, goal-oriented side, and a goofy side, and they both seem to be ready for commitment. and she got along so great with his family. it's too bad it wont work out for them. but then again, Frank lives at home with his parents, so how would that even work? i guess he would've moved in with Ali in San Fran.
Now on to Roberto, who i call Rico Suave. he's that guy from a romance novel, with dashing good looks and an amazing body. he has a good job, and he plays baseball so he's athletic and outdoorsy which is great for Ali. he's perfect on paper. but for some reason, though, there just seems to be something missing with Roberto. i'm not feeling the deep connection that i feel when her and Frank are together. the other thing that bothered me was Roberto's dad asking Ali to make sacrifices so that Roberto can advance in his career. then she'll just become an accessory to his life, rather than living her own and complementing his, while achieving her goals as well. the reason Ali left Jake when she was on the Bachelor, was because her career was on the line. i understand relationships involve compromise, but i don't think she should have to give up too much to be with him. and i don't think she'll be willing to, so they'll probably end up butting heads when it comes to what direction their life together will take. but hey, if she thinks she and Roberto have what it takes to make it, then more power to her. those will be some cute kids.
Lastly, Chris. Chris was under the radar for the most part up until the last couple of episodes. he's cute and i think Ali really likes him, but he seems a little bland. when he tries to be lively, it seems forced and awkward. i understand his mother passed away, so it's hard for him to open up, but i think he needs to find someone who's just as mellow as he is. what worries me about that situation is Ali getting bored with life on the Cape. it's beautiful there, but her career can only go so far there. plus he lives with his father, and i dont think he's ready to leave his father alone. if Ali moved out there with him, i think they would spend way too much time with his father. i feel like Chris just wants someone to comfort him, and Ali just happens to be there in front of him. I dont know how invested he is in Ali, specifically. he sees what his brothers have with their wives, and he just WANTS it, it doesnt matter who it's with.
im not really that excited about next weeks episode. it's evident that Frank leaves, in overly dramatic "reality" show fashion. his ex-girlfriend Nicole that he meets up with seems weird, and really young and simple-minded. it's hard to believe he would be with someone like that. i mean she doesn't even compare to Ali. it's been said that he was just doing the show for exposure, which is awful, but im not surprised.
i'm excited about the week after when they do "The Bachelorette: The Guys Tell All" special. I think it's live. if it is, there will probably be clues of whether or not she even picks someone in the end. rumor has it, she doesnt pick anyone. well she seems happy when the TMZ cameras find her. we'll just have to wait and see. check back for my next posting on tuesday night, or wednesday morning!
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